Your Thoughts LIE: Then Lead You To Anxiety, Stress, & Upset? But, You Can Have A Peaceful Mind.

Yes, your thoughts DO lie. And they lie a lot!

It’s true. A great many, and arguably, most thoughts, beliefs and feelings are sneaky little LIARS that trick us into feeling anxious, stressed out and frustrated in myriad ways.

False negative thoughts are frequent; to the tune of thousands of misleading thoughts per day that then wreak havoc on your emotions, stress levels, upset, anxiety and frustration.

Have you ever thought about the possibility of thoughts, and you’re your emotions, being rooted in lies or falsehood? Do you practice questioning your thoughts, beliefs and feelings to make SURE they are legit, practical and useful? Or to see if any given thought is desirable and worth keeping and aligning your experience of life with?

As you begin to consider inner (even unconscious) thoughts, beliefs or feelings as consistent and frequent ‘liars’ might seem weird, frightening or even off putting! But, hang in and all will become clear.

I spend a significant amount of time with clients helping them de-construct their thinking, feeling and belief cycles, and then to re-frame or re-create them in order for their lives to become devoid of anxiety, depression, overwhelm, frustration, anger, bitterness, upset, chronic busyness, drama, chaos, resentment, over drinking, eating, spending, working or any other form of ‘over indulging’, and to remove unwanted situations, interactions, results, emotions, people, obligations and even bad luck.

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Let’s break this down so you can get an idea of what the heck I’m talking about when I say that feelings, beliefs and thoughts are usually rooted in unreliability and lies!

Example: Low Self-Confidence

Let’s say you have had a long-standing problem with low self-confidence. And perhaps this leads you to struggle with some combination of, setting healthy boundaries, saying no, having healthy, honest or vulnerable relationships, feeling frequently frustrated, settling in some ways, having anxiety, fear of taking risks, guilt, feeling melancholy, fearing being alone, and the like.

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Maybe something in your growing up experience was experienced or felt traumatic, or you had a parent who was domineering, depressed, critical, an addict, absent or something else that informed, or led, you to have a lack of confidence as an adult.

When situations such as these occur during one’s formative years (which essentially happens with everyone), children have a very poor way of translating and understanding difficult experiences, while at the same time drawing self-deprecating conclusions about their beautiful, perfect, precious, and innocent little selves- ie, you! Which then develops over the years into any or most current unwanted life situations, feelings, experiences, perceptions, beliefs, thoughts, opinions and ideas.

We take on beliefs like, ‘I am not lovable enough, not smart enough, not pretty enough, sexy enough, talented enough, helpful enough, funny enough, outgoing enough…’ You can fill in your ‘not-enough _______ blanks’.

We all get to adulthood with myriad ‘not-enough thoughts (lies) and beliefs (more lies) and then orient life around these lies. Certainly however, it is important to know that ALL beliefs related to ‘not being enough’ are absolute lies.

These thoughts and beliefs then turn into actions, like: over trying, procrastination, perfectionism, work-aholism, lying, underachievement, tumultuous relationships, settling, behaving as a victim, being helpless, wanting to be rescued, depression, anxiety, addiction, an ‘I can’t’ mentality, chronic worry, guilt or fear, promiscuity, shyness, drugs, pornography addiction, obnoxiousness, any kind of drug or alcohol dependence, arrogance, being snide, sarcastic or rude, and the list goes on and on of possible icky or undesirable outlets for ‘not-enough’ beliefs to be played out.

For every faulty thought (which reflects inner beliefs) one has about him or herself, there are a dozens of supporting faulty beliefs, thoughts and feelings that accompany it– which are also lies simply by association. “Guilty by association!” And as a sneaky way to support faulty beliefs, our unconscious mind (or ego mind / small self) aligns our entire life experience to an exacting degree for which to use as evidence to shore up the lies- and so the cycle is on constant repeat!

Whew! That’s kinda heavy, huy!

Let’s look at a specific life example from my childhood to make this increasingly clear and useful for you.

When I was a little girl, I struggled with undiagnosed reading comprehension and sensory processing issues. This made reading zero fun because my comprehension was very poor. Making test taking anxiety producing, painful and poor as well. My family and teachers thought I was ‘being lazy, making careless mistakes and not apply myself.’ For which I got in a lot of trouble. All the while feeling very internally upset and frustrated.

What did I garnish from this combination of challenges?

‘I am stupid.’ Period. The end. This was a fact in my mind for far too many years.

I must have repeated every version of ‘I am stupid (dumb, moron, dumb ass, idiot) a million times between first grade to my mid-twenties, when this belief was unveiled, actively challenged and changed!

The pile of lies that accumulated from this one drawn out childhoods experience were many. And because I bought into this lie, I felt terrible … a lot. I easily misinterpreted what others would say, and made up my own meanings… ie, I manufactured my own interpretations and perceived others as implying I was stupid thousands of time. Because whatever beliefs we hold, such IS our perception, beliefs and interpretations- without exception. If we are triggered, we will fall into the cycle of grossness that aligns with faulty thoughts and beliefs.

Have you ever said something to some one that was neutral or even a complement, and they took it COMPLETELY the wrong way and got offended? Has this happened to you?

Well, this can only happen when we manufacture our own interpretation of a message to align with our OWN limiting (lie) belief about our self. This then leads to feelings and emotions that too, are faulty and based on lies!

The thing is, we all have old wounds. We each have old messy tapes playing in our heads that are rooted in lies and trigger anxious, guilty, fearful, sad, depressed or otherwise upsetting feelings. AND if you do not take the time to deconstruct old wounds and messy messages, beliefs, feelings and thoughts, you will continue to experience life in unpleasant ways.

BREAK Down:

To break this example down, the lies unfolded like this:

Belief – I am stupid. I am worthless (this sad belief came later).

Accompanying Thoughts – I’ll never graduate. I can’t do anything better. People think you’re an idiot. Well you are an idiot. I’ll never be able to earn a decent living.

Accompanying Feelings – depression, anxiety, fear, scarcity,

Upsetting thoughts, beliefs and feelings of any kind are faulty and unreliable because they result from the limiting beliefs. Anxiety was only ‘real’ for me regarding this situation because I believed I was a helpless dumb dumb, a victim to poor intelligences. Thankfully, I was not a victim, and I am brilliant in my own, unique ways – as we all are.

It’s a shitty cycle. A really shitty cycle. And though much of our negativity originates during our formative years, it sprouts into thousands of unreliable thoughts, feelings and beliefs as an adult.

How do I handle and heal the lies that run through my head and heart? Rule of thumb:

When you feel bad (in ANY way) you can be certain that a lie (negative thought and limiting beliefs) are behind the scenes hijacking your emotions.

Take Liberating ACTION:

  1. Be on the look out and become consciously aware of negative feelings.

  2. When a negative feeling does come up, ask yourself ‘what lie must I be thinking and believing in order to feel this way.”

  3. How do I know that this thought or belief is true and does believing this thought / belief serve me well and make me feel happy?

  4. What could I believe and think instead that would honor me and lead me to more success and happiness?

I encourage you to copy this 4 step process and keep it with you. Remembering to question u