Are Limiting Beliefs Holding You Back From A Happy & Peaceful Life?
Letting go. Surrender. Release. Giving in. Emancipation. Freedom. Liberation.
What do these gorgeous ideas have in common? They are the essence of a content, happy, peaceful and inspiring life; and free of limiting beliefs. Navigating life from a position of letting go, keeps you from being held back from enjoying peace and happiness of all kinds.
Most people practice ‘letting go’ only under extreme, or extremely trying, circumstances. Yet, living in a state of surrender is the most ‘sane’ way to live. That is, if you enjoy emotional and mental freedom and calm.
I recently uncovered another huge limiting belief (LB) that was wrecking havoc in parts of my life. Once this limiting belief was revealed, I was then able to add a fresh layer of additional inner peace and happiness to my life. Before I tell you a bout this transformative experience, let me preface my ‘breakthrough story’ by sharing a little about limiting beliefs and the transformative powers available when revealed for the scoundrels they are!
Limiting beliefs are almost always unconscious and they, in effect, hold you back from enjoying the peace and happiness that is available to everyone. Limiting beliefs are frauds; wolves in sheep’s clothing. Fortunately, limiting beliefs are super easy to change- IF you’re willing to locate them! LBs lie just beneath the surface of your emotional well-being ready to pounce on you when an emotional trigger arises – like Jaws! When they surface and attack, it is much like a vicious bite which then elicits anger, upset, resentment, suffering, anxiety guilt and/or shame.
The evidence of limiting beliefs are the feelings, emotions, thoughts, words, results, experiences, and actions that feel bad to you. Limiting beliefs are the birth place of blame, apathy, anger, fear, shame, divorce, adultery, violence, aggression, job dissatisfaction, poor decision making, lack of assertiveness, boundaries or confidence, underachievement, lack of goal setting or goal achievement, and sometimes even injury and illness.
Honestly, limiting beliefs are at the root of any and everything which you experience as difficult, stressful, overwhelming or unwanted, or as holding you back in life, love, or career.
Take a moment to think back over the past 24 hours and consider at least two feelings, thoughts, and/or situations that you didn’t enjoy or want, or found upsetting. At the root of those situations are limiting beliefs. Though no doubt the LBs are unconscious at this time.
But, when you locate them (not always easy at first practice), you can re-arrange your beliefs and literally stop having similar icky experiences. Each limiting belief that is located and removed is replaced with happiness- which has a compounding effect on all compartments of life.
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Let’s look at the four basic parts of Limiting Beliefs.
1. Common Thoughts That Limiting Beliefs
Check out these examples of common thoughts and ideas where limiting beliefs lurk and ultimately trigger unhappiness and discontent of all kinds:
My boss (spouse, mom, dog) makes me so frickin’ mad (annoyed, frustrated)!
My job is boring and forces me to work way too many hours, this sucks.
Being injured stinks, I’m always injured, I’ll never be ready for my next race.
City drivers (employees, co-workers) are such rude idiots (jerks, mean, greedy).
My most recent Limiting Belief example: People who are mean or cruel to animals, children and elderly piss me off so bad, and I kinda want to kick their asses.
The above examples are fraught with judgment, condemnation, victimhood, powerlessness, and globally negative assumptions. All thoughts and ideas that align with ideas such as the ones above have hidden LBs attached.
Example of a common thought: ‘My boss makes me so frickin; mad.
Limiting beliefs: Others have the power to determine my emotions. My boss is the boss of my feelings. I am powerless against my anger.
Powerful new beliefs: You can choose to change beliefs at any time. You might choose to believe that, ‘no one has the power to impact my feelings.’ ‘Or, because I always have the courage speak my mind and set great boundaries, my boss respects me, speaks kindly to me, and appreciates all I do.
The think about limiting beliefs is that they are just like an old uncomfortable shoe, you can throw it out an get a new one. Do you best to consider ALL beliefs as disposable and replacable. And as ideas that are always being ‘tested for validity’.
My limiting belief example expanded, revealed, solved and replaced with love and joy.
I grew up in a home and extended family environment which was aggressive, often violent, and included a great deal of alcoholism (in the men), and enabling, depression and anxiety (in the women).(There was also love and kindness ).
Of which I all except the alcoholism (food used to be my alcohol addiction replacement).I have long since healed and transformed essentially all aggressiveness, enabling, and depression.But still harbor and am clearing some fragments of fear / anxiety / guilt, and situational anger.
For the past several years, anger had basically only shown up when I perceived a situation to be ‘unjust’. For example, if I saw / perceived a child, animal or elderly person being abused, mistreated, or treated unfairly I would become angry, very angry. Or if I perceived myself as being treated unjustly. Even mean or cruel FB images of harmed dogs could send my blood to boiling and I would think about how I wanted to hurt the abuser for hurting others. Which might make sense to many of you reading this…
But these thoughts made me feel heart-sick, even though I actually believed this kind of anger was justified, even righteous (additional limiting beliefs). Unhealthy desires to protect others when one has grown up in an environment where one was not protected i